***WARNING*** it gets emotional, but I assure you this is businesss related.
The first time I really came to terms with the person I am was when my husband and were in pre-marital counselling.
Now, before you judge or assume we were so mismatched we needed an intervention, this was far from the case (FYI for all those out there saying counselling isn’t for them, Metallica – arguably one of the hardest rock bands in the world – do therapy).
My now in-law’s recommended we do this. They give this advice to couples routinely, and the honest truth is that we did it out of respect for them. I didn’t think I’d get anything out of it. But I can say wholeheartedly that we got so much out of it, I now recommend it to anyone in a partnership.
It’s confronting. There was a lot I didn’t want to face about myself. I cried quite a bit.
I got a lot out of it and I think all my relationships her helped, not just the one with my husband.
Not long after we were married, I was working for Chevron Australia, where employees were routinely asked to do the e-colors personality test (free app available at iTunes). I’m weary of doing these because I don’t want to be labelled or pigeon-holed by my co-workers, but the fact was it was life changing. The results were spot on.
Because Chevron is such a beast we were fortunate to have the opportunity to have a one on one session with the designers and creators of e-colors (which would have been incredibly expensive), who explained in-depth the benefits of such a program, and how to use our personal pro’s and con’s to our advantage.
So last week after 10 years I decided to re-do the e-colours test. Not surprisingly, my results had changed slightly, which I would expect after having children. I’m not so hard on myself, much less of a perfectionist. I have learnt to be much more calculated (thanks to Si), but I am still hung up on how people view me and my output.
So, what’s this all got to do with business… Well for good reason many people aren’t willing to accept who they are. Like I said it’s very confronting. But the fact is that it doesn’t just take a village to raise a child, it takes a village to run a business, and if you don’t know who you are and where your true strengths lie, how can you put the right people in the right places to support you in your endeavour?
I’m not saying you need to do a personality test at all, but I would recommend thinking about what you enjoy doing, and then handing over the rest to someone else. The right someone else. Below is a list of 5 Key Personality Traits to Have a Successful Business to help you figure out if all these boxes are ticked:
- A willingness to take risks – Are you able to view a situation that may be a bit on touch and go, but can calculate if it’s worth a try? (FYI I’m not good at this. I want to know it will end up perfectly, and I also hate losing face. So, I married someone who loves risks and is good at them, and I also have a business coach to support me in this area.)
- Great networking skills – I really enjoy meeting business owners at these events, and it’s pretty much where I meet all our clients. Fact is, if you aren’t personable, it doesn’t come across well and you may lose customers for it.
- Initiative and self-discipline – You need more than a good idea, you must be able to see it through. If this sounds like you perhaps pair yourself with someone who would keep you accountable.
- Passion/enthusiasm for what they do – It’s not really work if you love it. If it feels like work, then it will get old real quick. If you can find a way to generate money from the things you love doing, you’re on to a winner.
- Creativity/adaptability – Sometimes things don’t go to plan, and pivoting or evolving in this ever-changing world is often necessary. Being creative about how you market your company can also save you a lot of time and money.
It’s taken me a long time to accept that I’m not the best at everything, and I’ve had to accept where my true strengths lie and put the right people in the places I wasn’t so strong. I’m even getting quiet good at handing over the areas I’m proficient in, thus freeing me up to focus on revenue generating areas in my business.
If you feel like you are lacking in any of these areas and would like to discuss further, please get in touch.
We would also love to know how you feel about this subject. Do you agree that you can’t do everything, or can you? Has this been eye-opening for you, or the opposite? Feel free to comment your thoughts below. We appreciate all constructive feedback you can give.
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